Even though for most, being gay or lesbian in America today does not come with the same emotional hardships it did 20-30 years ago, we still experience stress, life management issues, and mental health problems just like everyone else. Some are unique to our culture, some are not. Below are a few frequently asked questions by potential clients.

1. Growing up gay was rough, but I’m ok with who I am now. How will psychotherapy help me

Being a teenager is hard for almost everyone.  Gay kids typically have it even rougher.  Gay kids are often robbed of the ability to feel accepted by a peer group, learn the basic models and functions of intimate relationships, and give and get trust from others.  This affects our adult social, occupational, and intimate relationships in a variety of ways that we can learn to change for the better.

2. I have been living a straight lifestyle for many years, but want to come out. Is it too late for me?

Now is the perfect time!  We can help you come out at a pace that feels comfortable to you and sets you up for a successful future.

3. I would like to talk to someone but my lifestyle/relationship isn’t traditional.  I don’t want to be judged.

We can honestly tell you there is no judgment here.  It is one of the benefits of seeing a therapist that deeply understands all the nuances of gay and lesbian culture.  No matter what your circumstance is, we get you.

4. I just can’t seem to find a relationship that works. How can you help?

Even though our community has matured tremendously over the last 20-30 years, and even though we now have marriage equality, we still have very few models of what successful same-sex relationships look and act like.  We have studied and explored this topic immensely and can teach you how to have the relationship you want and deserve.

What more do I need to know about your services?

All therapists are required to meet the same standards of training and education for licensure and practice.  The difference lies in the professional therapeutic relationship between therapist and client.  All our therapists are either part of the LGBT community or allies. We work with a solution-focused, problem-solving, strengths-based model with a touch of warmth and wit and a dedication to customer service.  Your calls and emails will be answered promptly by our support staff you can rest assured that your appointment will always begin and end on time, so you can get on with your day.

Gender Transitioners

When people realize they are transgender/transsexual, they have many questions about how to get the transition process started, what are the steps involved in transition, and how to get the most correct and up to date information about the transition process.

Often the prospect of going to see a therapist can be rather frightening for a variety of reasons: What if the therapist doesn’t support me in my transition? What if the therapist tells me I’m not ready? How do I know whether or not the therapist is really qualified to help me?

Dr. Baker-Hargrove and his staff have a combined over 40 years experience working in the transgender/transsexual community and Two Spirit Health Services is considered a national expert on the mental health issues related to gender transition by other mental health professionals, medical doctors who work in the field, and the clients themselves. We consult with clients from all over the United States who are transitioners. Our staff speaks regularly at national conferences, Dr. Baker-Hargrove trains other medical and mental health professionals in the cultural competencies required to work with transgender patients, and we have worked with over 1,500 transitioning clients from the age of 5 to the age of 80. Below are a few frequently asked questions to help put your mind at ease:

What if my therapist does not support me in my transition?

You won’t get that here. We don’t tell people they should not transition. That is not the decision of the therapist and you don’t need a therapist’s approval. Our job is to help you make your transition successful.

What if I’m not sure whether or not I’m transGender, or a cross dresser, or lesbian, or I’m just confused?

These are very common conversations we have with people who are in the beginning stages of the process. Whether you realize it or not, you have experienced a lot of negative programming about being transsexual from mainstream society. The point is that if you are asking these questions of yourself, something is definitely going on and we are the experts at helping you sort it all out.

How long will this take? How many sessions will I need to get my letter?

We follow the World Professional Association for Transgender Health Standard of Care 7 guidelines. We do not hold people to a certain length of time in order to “get a letter”. If you are ready after the first session, then we are ready to support that. Our goal in working with you is to help you achieve the most successful transition possible by improving your relationship with yourself.

If you think I need additional psychotherapy, could that delay my “getting a letter”?

Typically, not. You can have other issues going on in your life or have a serious mental health condition and still be transgender/transsexual. Our goal is to help you become a better life manager, problem solver, and improve your relationship with yourself and your environment. We can do that while you transition, not before.

What more do I need to know about transitioning?

Dr. Baker-Hargrove and his staff have over 40 years of combined experience in working with gender identity issues and have counseled over 1,500 transitioners of all ages. We are fully trained and are aware of procedures, processes, steps to take, people to refer you to, and places to get more information. We are here to help you realize your goals-not make attaining them more difficult.

Laser Hair Removal

We offer $15 consultations on either service that can be applied to any service that is purchased.


...is a method of removing individual hairs from the face or body. It uses heat energy to destroy hair at it’s root. A very fine needle is inserted into the hair follicle, and the hair is removed with tweezers. Many factors influence hair growth, so multiple visits will be needed. The total number of treatments needed will vary from person to person. The average time frame for hair removal is 12 to 24 months. Most clients come in every week or every other week. Each treatment lasts between 15 minutes and one hour. The side effects are minimal.

Laser hair removal...

...is a method that beams highly concentrated light, known as photothermolysis, into the follicle to destroy the hair. It is attracted to the melanin (pigment) of the hair which absorbs the energy, thus destroying it. It can take anywhere from 6-10 sessions to adequately reduce or remove the unwanted hair. Each session lasts from 15 minutes to one hour, depending on the size of the area being treated. Downtime after the treatments is minimal to none, and sun should be avoided one week before and after treatments to prevent hyper/hypo-pigmentation or blistering.