It’s easy to look at the state of our world/country/state/city and find what’s wrong with it. I quit watching the (bad) news because it often made me feel sad or angry. Especially in the LGBT community, it’s simple to point out the flaws in our system and see how it hurts or discriminates. While that is frustrating, for those of you who know me, know I like to keep it on the optimistic side – especially when it comes, more specifically, to the transgender community.
When someone comes to see me for the first time, often I’m the first person they’re coming out to. Even if that’s not the case, when someone’s seeking an HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) referral, they’re often very nervous. One of my favorite things about my job is delivering the good news to them: It’s going to be a lot easier than you think.
We have a Readiness to Transition Survey in which I read out statements and the client rates them on how much they agree or disagree. I still get goose bumps when 2 of these in particular are answered with “non-applicable”. One of these is: “I don’t get frustrated with others’ negative reactions, nor am I disturbed by their intrusive questions”. The other is: “I have made peace with those who have decided not to accept me”. More and more, people are finding they don’t have such issues during transition.
I often look at what’s on TV to measure how common or mainstream something has become. In comparing the trans thing to the gay thing, 3 years ago when I started here, I would have said we’re in the “Three’s Company” stage. For those of you too young to remember, this was a show in which one of the characters had to pretend he was gay when the landlord came around. Then the AIDS epidemic happened and everyone on the forefront of that movement went WAY back into the closet. That was in the mid 80’s. I don’t remember any other TV shows dealing with gay issues until Ellen came out with her sitcom when I was in college, then “Will and Grace” in the late 90’s or so. Now it’s everywhere.
Today, however, I would say the transgender community is in the “Will and Grace” stage where it’s about to take off. There are so many shows with positive transgender characters such as “Orange is the New Black”, “Transparent”, “Glee”, and “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia”, just to name a few. This is a very good indication that people are being more open and visible in dealing with trans issues – which is a good thing!
Hope this helps!